I don’t remember making conversation, but apparently I must have mumbled something, since the next morning the host of the party told me that Mr. As I was catching my breath, she casually mentioned, “Oh, I told him you don’t date non-Jews, and he’s fine with that. He really liked you.” This was a delicate situation, to say the least. Then we talked, and laughed, and talked and laughed some more. They should know me well enough to know that I wasn’t going to marry him. Not because we were in a public place, but because they were smart enough to think before they spoke.Here I was, being pursued by a bona fide heartthrob with absolutely no strings attached. Dinner ended awkwardly, amidst the forlorn clinking of cutlery toying with barely eaten food. I had not seen him shed a tear since his mother passed away, over a decade before.Consequently our marriage was not the hasty, impassioned leap of two people soaring on the Icarian wings of a first love.That which was between us was calm as the night, deep as the sea; in the light of it we both knew that forever afterwards he would look upon other women, and I upon other men, as pale wraiths.Over the past half century, intermarriage has become increasingly common in the United States among all religions – but among Jews at the highest rate.Why that is the case is one of the questions Naomi Schaefer Riley probes in her new book, “‘Til Faith Do Us Part: How Interfaith Marriage is Transforming America” (Oxford University Press).“It doesn’t mean that anti-Semitism is over, but there’s much more philo-Semitism than anti-Semitism in America.”Riley says intermarriage is both a cause and effect of this phenomenon.“The more you have exposure to people of other faiths, the more likely you are to like them and then marry them yourself,” she said.
Lets face it: It’s much more common for mixed-faith families to gravitate toward the predominant culture (i.e.
They are not religious so I don’t understand why they are so adamant about this.
I have never dated a Jewish guy, because the guys I am attracted to simply are never Jewish.
Another factor behind the comparatively high Jewish intermarriage rate is, simply, that Americans like Jews.
Riley cites the work of sociologists Robert Putnam and David Campbell, who measured the popularity of various religious groups with extensive surveys for their 2010 book, “American Grace: How Religion Divides and Unites Us.”“America, for the most part, loves its Jews,” agreed Paul Golin, the associate executive director of the Jewish Outreach Institute.